Clearness of Focus in the game of tennis
Play tennis. You are never too old
Ulrika Bolinder outside Hayes, Mansion, California
For many years I watched my husband take the car Sunday evening for his weekly match in tennis at his local tennis club. No matter if he won or lost he arrived home with a smile on his face. Refreshed. In spirit and in mind.
When our oldest son grew up I followed his tennis career on the court from the sidelines. He played from the age of six and up, all around in Sweden and for a few years at college in the USA.
I didn´t play tennis as a child but I´ve watched the game on TV, on the family sideline, and on the ATP tournament live in Båstad every summer. As a passive part of a family with all members loving the sport.
We even have our own old tennis court 10 meters from the kitchen window at our summerhouse in Båstad.
Ready for play at my court in Båstad, Sweden
I always believed that tennis would be a sport for me but never took the time to practice. Until a few years ago. Suddenly the children are grown up and there is more time for me. For us. The time came when the Project ”Upbringing children” had come to an end. Bird Nest Syndrome.
When that time comes in life I think you need to adjust your relationship and your life. I began to play tennis. For me and for us. Something we can do together. And we do! I got a tennis coach on a weekly base and then I play with my husband between two to four times a week. And more during summer. I love it! You can call me in the middle of the night and ask. Yes! It’s tough, difficult and so fun. The sheer joy of life. We take the rackets when we travel. We’ve played in the Maldives, high on the steep of Positano, in Harlem, NY and more. first time I met my tennis coach he asked what goals I have. To beat my husband in five years I said. Not there yet. But getting closer…
The view from the Court in Hotel Positano was amazing!
Around 50 years old. With a clear mission. I would beat my husband in five years.
The rules were simple. I would have a good trainer on my own. Teaching me the technics. And when I played with my husband We would never talk about technics. We would just play.
So I started my active Journey. And it was a refreshment I needed. The explosive game when everything has to come together in a fraction of a second to adjust the position, stans, swing, swing speed, bending, balance, forward-leaning, follow through and tactics by think of where to place the ball toon me by storm.
You can’t think of anything else when playing. It’s completely mind blowing.Its the focus of tennis that is the hidden secret of tennis. No matter occupied in during the Day with life, work. Love, children, fashion and elegance: When you play tennis your soul are in the focus of and elegance.
Because the more elegance you have ib the swing the better you play. As in golf:” if the swing looks good; it most likely is good”.
Play tennis. You are never too old. It just opens up magic moments.
Stretching at Court in Canareef Hotel, Maldives
Our court in Brevik, Lidingö in the morning is wonderful
And do it because of health reason too. A Danish study showed that tennis is a sport that prolongs life with 10 years.
And do it because of health reason too. A Danish study showed that tennis is a sport that prolongs life with 10 years. The sport that was Nr 1 in this field. Health reasons and also the social aspect plays a vital part in this study. Elegance is to live a long life.
My wardrobe in the World of Elegance
A wardrobe is a space made to store our clothes
Since I live in Sweden with lots of weathers, it means lots of clothes to match the daily forecast.
So I make changes in my wardrobe during the year. When the chills creeping in I sort out the light summer clothes and move the darker colors and the warmer garments. Doing this at least once every season keeps the wardrobe fresh. Since I live in a house I’m fortunate to have space on the highest floor to store season clothes. While changing I check what I have and haven’t used past year and give away for charity or leave to a shop that sells second hand. Clothes should be used. If not on me, on someone else.
Great inspiration when it comes to organize is the Swedish site Förvaringsdrottningen. I subscribe to her mail and I get inspired every time she sends her newsletter and I can warmly recommend her books.
To get a well organized wardrobe you need to know what your style is. Meaning what makes you feel both comfortable and good looking.
In my case it means pencil skirts, tees, leather jackets or light down jackets. Clothes I wear on everyday base and just change quality and colors depending of the season. Darker colors in winter, lighter in the summer.
It doesn’t mean I don’t have other clothes as well, it simply means less. Since I know what I like and feel good wearing I don’t spend a lot of time getting dressed.
If you know what you prefer then take action on it. So when you find the favorite trousers or cardigan – buy more than one. Better to have two or more of things you really love and then in different colors maybe. We really don’t change style that much on a longer perspective.
To add a twist to any look – put on a scarf! Easiest way of getting a clean and simple style to pop.
And don’t be afraid of colors in scarfs – be bold! Or wrap it nicely on the handle of your bag. Very chic.
Elegance is a set of tools. Having a well orginized wardrobe is one of them.
SoHo Tote Hemp
CANVAS TOTE WHITE
COCKTAIL TOTE BLACK
BUSINESS GOTHAM BLACK
COCKTAIL TOTE GREY
MINI TOTE IVORY
BUCKET OCEAN BLUE
MINI TOTE IVORY
MINI TOTE GREY
Tote Ocean Blue