We have a new family member

We have a new family member

Named after the American actor, Montgomery Clift,

Monty

is a mix between Maltese and Coton de tolear.

We did, what a lot of people have done these past months, get a dog – a puppy.

We have been talking about it, or rather I have talked about it the last maybe 3 years my husband says, but just talked.

One reason we didn’t buy one earlier was that we had a cat in the family, Maja – the queen of the house.

And she was not at all interested in anyone outside the family. At all. She ruled.

We loved her dearly, and there was no room for anyone else. Sadly she passed away around Christmas time last year.

– With her gone and dearly missed and the new situation of the world, like a lot of others, the dog issue raised on the agenda.

With a little help from our daughter, who has a dog of her own, the dog market was scrutinized, and a lovely dog was found.


Not too easy these days, since the rest of the world seems to have the same idea. We all want to focus on love and cuddle ourselves out if this mess!

And so we got Monty as a new member of the family. We are enjoying a totally new way of living since our children are all grown up.

Now it’s all cuddling in the morning, fast out to pee in the garden, breakfast with only food for puppy’s, cuddle again and out again before hitting the office.

We made the mistake of giving him tiny bits of our food at the beginning and got to learn from other dog lovers that it’s not a good idea if you want the best for your dog.

Let them eat their food and stay healthy. Longer. So far we’re happy he sleeps all night through since he came, he doesn’t mind travelling a long time in the car.

He accepts us playing tennis without any significant problems. And we keep cuddling everyday-It still is just the beginning but we love him!


With Dad

With mom

6 reasons why I love the Cherry Blossom

6 reasons why I love the Cherry Blossom

Ulrika Bolinder at Kungsträdgården, Stockholm

Who doesn’t around the rose-scented breeze of spring that invigorates the senses and cleanses the mind free of all toxic thoughts and energies?

Cherry Blossom is indeed my most favourite time of the year; it is a time of rebirth and transformation.

As the trees and flower bushes welcome new leaves and petals, we humans can shed away all unhealthy habits and allow the roses of change to grow bold and vibrant.

It is a time of utter and devastating beauty.

Dinner Magenta

Allow me to share some of the reasons why I simply love the Cherry Blossom:

A Time of Rebirth

Spring is a splendid time of rebirth, and Mother Nature is busy beautifying the earth with new shades and themes. It’s a remarkable season for change and transformation. One could go in for a splendid makeover, a new wardrobe, or even a drastically bold hair colour transformation.

A feast for the Senses

The arrival of Cherry Blossoms is indeed a feast for the senses. This invigorating sensory experience is as rewarding for the eyes, as it is for the nose. There’s nothing more splendid than being surrounded by pastel and vibrant pink florals.

Mini Bucket Silver

Love is in the Air

It most certainly is! Spring has a dramatic flair for romance, and it is the perfect time of the year to plan romantic outdoor dates and unforgettable springtime getaways.

Picnics & Parties

The Japanese tradition of Hanami advocates the celebration of beauty, and it literally means “blossom viewing”. Around the 9th century, Japanese aristocrats introduced the concepts of Hanami parties under beautiful cherry blossom trees. Over the years, this ritual evolved and spread throughout the world. I adore the Cherry Blossom season because it’s a splendid time for outdoor festivities, fun picnics and parties filled with entertainment.

Tote Blue


The view from the Court in Hotel Positano was amazing !

Appreciating Nature

According to Japanese cultures, these pastel pink blossoms are known as ‘Sakura’, and they are symbolic of spring, the season of renewal. I firmly believe that these delicate blooms and their exquisite petals can teach us a great deal about the laws of nature, and the nature of life. Their short-lived existence allows us to appreciate beauty, and then watch it disappear forever.

A Love for All Things PINK

Pink is not just a colour, it is, in fact, a state of mind. I adore watching this romantic and dreamy colour appear everywhere on trees and gardens. Spring is indeed a celebration of the colour pink, and the new dusty pink Mini Jetset Bag is the ultimate accessory to amplify your blossomy glam.

Stay Elegant, folks!

Mini Bucket Pink

The Elegance in Language Creates Elegance in life

The elegance in language creates an elegance in life

Ulrika Bolinder outside Hayes, Mansion, California

Elegance is a set of many things. 

When you dress elegant and with style in the morning you have created a great foundation for a day in your elegant life. Style and beauty. Makeup and hair. You have a task list and have executed your morning routine and are ready for the day and the possibilities it has for you.

Ready to conquer the World! Yes: it’s my philosophy of a life surrounding my everyday elegance. But just as you can spill coffee on your new dress and the day can be interrupted with unexpected negative events. We can all work on what we can avoid creating negativity and energy drains.

Language is something that you can Control. Your language. Your language is a result of your thoughts. Your thoughts are based on your attitudes and values.

Ready for play at my court in Båstad, Sweden

Language is so much more than just the number of Words.

So language is a result of many things. Language needs to be elegant in order for your life to be elegant. You are what you think. You do what you think and you act upon the set of values you have.

And when things don’t work as good as they could; the values can be adjusted. The values that are adjusted to the better leads to better routines, better outcomes and a better more elegant life. It is a winning spiral.

So the need for rebuilding better values (if they need to), reorganize the set of cultural inheritance that was a part of the system software that came from your upbringing.

Your language needs to be elegant. In order to live an elegant life. The first thing to clean like coffee stains on a dress is profanity. Profane words are basically only in order when you hit yourself on the thumb with a hammer. When you see famous actors being interviewed on television and they use swear words like a teenager I instantly react as they spilled coffee all over their clothes. It’s just a big NoNo.

Elegant language is an attitude toward your surroundings in society.

The view from the Court in Hotel Positano was amazing !

The elegance in style and in language is part of the same thing.

But elegant language is an attitude toward your surroundings in society. It’s being nice to people. To smooth the description and round your critique into words that will stand the test of time. Elegance in the language is about using fewer adjectives and polarized words. It’s about being diplomatic when you are angry and under stress. It’s about making it possible to solve the crisis by not burning unnecessary bridges. It’s about elegance in life. It’s about style. It is the core of you that Pour out of your mouth. Or in your writing. If you intend to live an elegant life; you need to use your language in an elegant way. And the path to so requires a guideline to the right path of thinking.

You see what you think. You think what you are. The road to elegance is filtered by your language.

The Clearness of Focus in the Game of tennis

Clearness of Focus in the game of tennis

Play tennis. You are never too old

Ulrika Bolinder outside Hayes, Mansion, California

Ulrika Bolinder outside Hayes, Mansion, California

For many years I watched my husband take the car Sunday evening for his weekly match in tennis at his local tennis club. No matter if he won or lost he arrived home with a smile on his face. Refreshed. In spirit and in mind.

When our oldest son grew up I followed his tennis career on the court from the sidelines. He played from the age of six and up, all around in Sweden and for a few years at college in the USA.

I didn´t play tennis as a child but I´ve watched the game on TV, on the family sideline, and on the ATP tournament live in Båstad every summer. As a passive part of a family with all members loving the sport.
We even have our own  old tennis court 10 meters from the kitchen window at our summerhouse in Båstad.

Dinner Magenta

Ready for play at my court in Båstad, Sweden

Ready for play at my court in Båstad, Sweden

I always believed that tennis would be a sport for me but never took the time to practice. Until a few years ago. Suddenly the children are grown up and there is more time for me. For us.  The time came when the Project ”Upbringing children” had come to an end. Bird Nest Syndrome.

When that time comes in life I think you need to adjust your relationship and your life. I began to play tennis. For me and for us. Something we can do together. And we do! I got a tennis coach on a weekly base and then I play with my husband between two to four times a week. And more during summer. I love it! You can call me in the middle of the night and ask. Yes! It’s tough, difficult and so fun. The sheer joy of life. We take the rackets when we travel. We’ve played in the Maldives, high on the steep of Positano, in Harlem, NY and more. first time I met my tennis coach he asked what goals I have. To beat my husband in five years I said. Not there yet. But getting closer…

So I started a few years ago…

The view from the Court in Hotel Positano was amazing !

The view from the Court in Hotel Positano was amazing!

Around 50 years old. With a clear mission. I would beat my husband in five years.

The rules were simple. I would have a good trainer on my own. Teaching me the technics. And when I played with my husband We would never talk about technics. We would just play.

So I started my active Journey. And it was a refreshment I needed. The explosive game when everything has to come together in a fraction of a second to adjust the position, stans, swing, swing speed, bending, balance, forward-leaning, follow through and tactics by think of where to place the ball toon me by storm.

You can’t think of anything else when playing. It’s completely mind blowing.Its the focus of tennis that is the hidden secret of tennis. No matter occupied in during the Day with life, work. Love, children, fashion and elegance: When you play tennis your soul are in the focus of and elegance.

Because the more elegance you have ib the swing the better you play. As in golf:” if the swing looks good; it most likely is good”.

Play tennis. You are never too old. It just opens up magic moments.

Stretching at Court in Canareef Hotel, Maldives

Stretching at Court in Canareef Hotel, Maldives

Our court in Brevik, Lidingö in the morning is wonderful

Our court in Brevik, Lidingö in the morning is wonderful

Forbes Article

And do it because of health reason too. A Danish study showed that tennis is a sport that prolongs life with 10 years. The sport that was Nr 1 in this field. Health reasons and also the social aspect plays a vital part in this study. Elegance is to live a long life.  

Love- 40.

My wardrobe in the World of Elegance

My wardrobe in the World of Elegance

A wardrobe is a space made to store our clothes

Since I live in Sweden with lots of weathers, it means lots of clothes to match the daily forecast.

So I make changes in my wardrobe during the year. When the chills creeping in I sort out the light summer clothes and move the darker colors and the warmer garments. Doing this at least once every season keeps the wardrobe fresh. Since I live in a house I’m fortunate to have space on the highest floor to store season clothes. While changing I check what I have and haven’t used past year and give away for charity or leave to a shop that sells second hand. Clothes should be used. If not on me, on someone else.

Great inspiration when it comes to organize is the Swedish site Förvaringsdrottningen. I subscribe to her mail and I get inspired every time she sends her newsletter and I can warmly recommend her books.

Förvaringsdrottningen

To get a well organized wardrobe you need to know what your style is. Meaning what makes you feel both comfortable and good looking.

In my case it means pencil skirts, tees, leather jackets or light down jackets. Clothes I wear on everyday base and just change quality and colors depending of the season. Darker colors in winter, lighter in the summer.
It doesn’t mean I don’t have other clothes as well, it simply means less. Since I know what I like and feel good wearing I don’t spend a lot of time getting dressed.

If you know what you prefer then take action on it. So when you find the favorite trousers or cardigan – buy more than one. Better to have two or more of things you really love and then in different colors maybe. We really don’t change style that much on a longer perspective.

To add a twist to any look – put on a scarf! Easiest way of getting a clean and simple style to pop.
And don’t be afraid of colors in scarfs – be bold! Or wrap it nicely on the handle of your bag. Very chic.

Elegance is a set of tools. Having a well orginized wardrobe is one of them.

Explore my wardrobe

  • Evening Light

    Silver Bucket

  • Many seasons. Many options.

    TOTE BURGUNDY

  • Shopping, Shopping

    CLUTCH BURGUNDY

  • Go Green With Hemp

    SoHo Tote Hemp

  • Chic

    DINNER MAGENTA

  • Boat trip

    CANVAS TOTE WHITE

  • Matching Bags

    Grand Central

  • Black & White

    COCKTAIL TOTE BLACK

  • Dress for Success

    CLUTCH SILVER

  • Beach Time

    DINNER GREY

  • Ready for Everyday Elegance

    BUSINESS GOTHAM BLACK

  • Positano

    Bucket Magenta

  • Spring in Stockholm

    BUCKET GREY

  • Maldives

    COCKTAIL IVORY

  • It’s Time for Pink

    COCKTAIL TOTE GREY

  • Classic

    MINI TOTE IVORY

  • Summer time

    BUCKET OCEAN BLUE

  • Sunny day in Lisbon

    MINI TOTE IVORY

  • A pefect summer day

    Business Blue

  • Spring time

    MINI TOTE GREY

  • Stockholm Summer Evening

    Clutch Grey

  • Rome Sightseeing

    Bucket Olive

  • Millesgården museum

    Tote Ocean Blue

  • At the Museum

    DINNER IVORY

My Morning Routine with Elegance

My Morning Routine with Elegance

A part of the essense of elegance is planning

The calmness of the morning 

I’m a morning person. That does not mean that I talk, listen to the radio, watch tv or anything noisy. That only means that I love going up and start the day. But I’m careful about my start. A part of the essence of elegance is planning without stress. 

It is during the morning routine I plan for the day ahead. The key to elegance is to plan for just enough and not too many activities. To avoid stress and to get a great pace of the Day. For the benefit of keeping the level of elegance of mind.

The alarm clock goes off at 06:24 during a normal day. I have a habit never to edit my Alarm Clock list to the sheer Joy of my husband. It’s a long list with many 06:24s to choose from. 

The smile on his face and the laughter he gives when he sees my long Alarm Clock list has kept me from deleting anything.

The routine of waking up at the same time has its own benefits. I pull the curtains apart and wonder where this day will take me. Don’t misunderstand, I don’t just follow the day- I plan for it but you can’t plan for every minute. That’s the beauty;-) There is always room for the unexpected.

My cat loves the routine too. She walks with me to the kitchen and shows her will to get fed. She gets her food on the small plate from the Sunday Tableware. Her little corner in the kitchen is also a slight part of the best elegance we can offer her. With her satisfied, I start brewing coffee and set the table for breakfast.

Our cat Maja born in 2007

My husband likes to sleep a little longer so that gives me a peaceful moment to plan the day by myself. I use a pen and post-it stickers in my Dairy, very old school. I am old-fashioned in that sense that I don’t use any digital tool for it. It suits me.

Same thing with the old-fashioned newspaper. I love to open the printed version of the ink made edition. The articles I read make no digital fingerprints.

I can skim the articles and read from different sections. I can explore areas I haven´t  been shown interest in earlier and not presented to me by an algorithm.

I love my morning paper. Printed version. Old school.

 

I like my husband to hand the morning paper to me. So I call him when the kitchen table is set and the Moccamaster Coffee-machine is ready.

He then gets it and joins me at our breakfast table.

Elegance at the Breakfast table is part of a great start of the Day.

Coffee machine

Erik gets his news from the smartphone. Our deal is that he has it on silent mode. The softly played classical music in the background is not to be disturbed.

Morning radio or TV is not to be on. The gentle start of our senses is demanding that no extra noises, no loud news broadcast, and no upbeat music is allowed. The birds outside is always appriciated. 

When breakfast is done we have a habit of “holiday mood ”

Erik gets redcurrants from our garden between July until October to garnish the bowls with natural yogurt and müsli that we have for breakfast. A few slices of banana is also a part of the dish.

Erik tidies up the table and he cleans the kitchen without hesitation or a pause. The elegance of not postponing things. As soon as the kitchen is done and the dishes are in the dishwasher we both move back to bed.

This is my dedicated time to social media and correspondence. We read and get inspired. We inspire by posting. Laying in bed. Spending the time as we would after breakfast on a holiday spent in a nice hotel.

The plan for the day is now already set. We discuss issues and spend time together. Once a week I have a personal trainer and twice I play tennis at 08.00. 

The other days we leave bed for the second time at 07: 45. The first thing we do together is making the bed. A well-trimmed routine. While I put my clothes from the wardrobe out on our bed, my husband gets first cold water in the shower prior to the warm water. He loves this ice-cold start that makes him totally awake.

Morning feeling

Morning routine bed

When he leaves the bathroom I have already arranged his clothes for the day on our bed. It’s like a small mood board;-) Like the first footman in Downton Abbey, I carefully choose his daily outfit. I make sure the colors fit mine so we match.

He chooses his own cuffs though. He uses cuffs with his shirt every day. Just as Mark Zuckerberg uses his Grey T-shirt or Steve Jobs wore his black polo Erik uses his blue or white French cuff shirts and have a different pair of cuffs every day. It is his small detail of everyday elegance. Same routine. Same style. Different cuffs. His style is very much the same but his Jackets and shoes vary.

When I am done in the bathroom my husband is dressed and has started to work by writing emails and communicate with his software development team in Cairo on Skype.

By 08.30-09.00 we are ready to drive to work.

This is our morning elegance in practice. I normally have a great start this way. I wish you the same!

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